Wednesday, November 24, 2010

Matching


I'm a matcher... I like my dishes to match, I like to match the jars of what I'm canning and even the lids. I like my shelves to match, spice containers, towels, everything.
You name it, I want it to match.
So this...

is hard for me.

The upside is that she is adorable:) I know kids need to assert their independance. I don't want her to not have confidence because I didn't like the purple plaid skirt with the striped rainbow shirt and t-shirt over. But, I kringe a little when she comes down the stairs in an outfit like this and it takes all I have to say, "I love your outfit! Nice job picking your own clothes!" What's wrong with the train of thought... If you like the skirt and you like the shirt, then wear them together! I love 4 year olds:) Never mind that I bought an entire line from Gymbore (something I NEVER do but it was on a killer sale) and she refuses to wear 75% of it. Kids. Oh well, hopefully Chloe will be willing to wear it. Lesson learned, don't go shopping without your 4 year old. She needs to pick out her own clothes... Well, at least she does if she's Ellorie.

Wednesday, November 10, 2010

Chloe Lillian Forsgren

Today we set the adoption date for Chloe! Finialization is Thursday, December 23rd at 9:45am in Ogden, Utah. We are so excited and can't wait! I missed court today because I was off by 15 minutes. They don't let cell phones in court and that's my calendar and when they set the date and time I didn't get it in there and I am so bad with anything to do with numbers! Agh! So, they set the date and everything without me since I was late, but it will work just fine:) We couldn't be happier and we look forward to our early Christmas present. Her new name will be Chloe Lilian Forsgren. We were considering and thinking at one time it would be Chloe Mae, but that sounded to Southern accentish, if that makes sense. Hope no one is offended by that:) I have always loved Lilian for a name, and would choose it for a first name, but that is already done and she is definately a Chloe. We did change the spelling as you can see, the other way is too crazy. Her whole life I would be saying Chloe with a "K" and an "ie" at the end. No thanks. Who spells it like that anyway? Oh, I guess a girl on MTV someone told me. Enough said. So, our beautiful Chloe will be ours forever. What a roller coaster ride to have over. I have never been a fan of roller coasters...

Wednesday, October 13, 2010

the khloie update

We had court a couple weeks ago and nothing really resulted from it. The potential birth father has not yet taken the paternity test (at least as far as I know). He supposedly made an appointment to do so and the judge said we would reconvene on October 25th. The next step will be to see if he in fact does take it, and what the results are and how that will effect proceedings. The state attorney told the young man in court last time that even if he establishes paternity the state is just going to turn around and request it to be terminated. Where was he for 6 months? He could have signed the paper at the hospital as the father, but he didn't. So, we don't know his intentions, if he even has any.

Utah has a law that a child 2 or under once they are placed in foster care, has to have a permanent placement within 8 months. Khloie will be with us 8 months as of Nov. 11th. A judge can make rulings to extend that, but I don't know why she would. I don't understand other things she has done however, so who's to say how it will all play out.

We feel so peaceful concerning the matter though. I admit that it helps when I don't have to see the family. When I have visits I always feel the weight of the situation. The mom didn't show up for her last visit a week ago Monday. She hasn't given them a number to reach her at, and they don't chase parents down to do what they're supposed to, they expect some effort on their part. She did say that she wanted to relinquish her rights and didn't need to be forced (have the state terminate).

So, we wait for the 25th... more updates to come:) thank you all for your thoughts and prayers!

Thursday, October 7, 2010

You know you're a mom when...

I have found myself thinking, "you know you're a mom when..." throughout my days lately. It usually makes me smile and I am always happy to find myself in that place (well, almost always). Feel free to ad to the list...


10. the only band-aid in the house is dora, princess or hello kitty
9. your shirt smells like puke
8. your car stereo belts "the wheels on the bus"
7. you have more car seats than jeans
6. you find yourself saying "because I said so"
5. a good day involves no poop on your hands, crayon on the wall or fits in the living room
4. your bed time is the same time as a 4 year old (and you could have even gone earlier)
3. a shower for the day is optional
2. making cookies is an exciting and fun filled afternoon (and it really is)
1. hugs and kisses make everything worth it

Thursday, September 16, 2010

Our Day in Court

Well, things didn't go quite as planned yesterday. After 6 months, the birth mother showed up in court with the supposed birth father. The case worker hadn't met her before (they looked for the mom but she made herself disappear that last half a year) and was surprised to see her there. It changed the plans, having her there. Jenny (our case worker) doesn't think it will change the eventual outcome, that we will adopt Khloie, but that it will make it a longer, more drawn out case. Awesome. The State has already set in motion their plan and recomendation to terminate the birth mom's rights and have us adopt Khloie and is still going forward with that plan. If the mom and her recently appointed public attorney want to state their case, they can do that. We have a pre-trial September 30th in the afternoon when the State will make their recommendations and if it is contested by the mom, we will set a trial date for both sides to present their case. I'm not sure what her's will be to be honest, but nonetheless, she can do it. She would have had a way better chance to have her daughter back if she would have actually showed up to visits, appointments, and her legal responsibilities in drug court. But she disappeared, so here we are. It's been a hard day... we are holding up though and praying a lot. Thanks for all your concern, love and prayers for our family. We will update after court the 30th...

Wednesday, September 8, 2010

Man Weekend

Doug is probably one of the happiest guys on the planet today... he takes off after work with a couple of buddies to go to the BYU - Air force game in Colorado and hang out for a few days. One of his friends will be there for work, so they are staying in his hotel room and another friend got the tickets. He hasn't ever gotten to leave for 4 days just for fun with friends, heck, we've never even done that as a couple! So, this is his early birthday present and he is very excited. He lives for BYU football, so I really hope it's a good game. That will make his year! Go Cougars!

Monday, September 6, 2010

Just a little longer...

Our beautiful girl is a little closer to being ours forever. We have a court date set for September 15th! The judge will terminate birth parent rights and set an adoption date at this hearing. We are looking at the end of December to finalize, if the courts agree... sometime around Christmas.We couldn't be happier!
Everyone who meets Khloie loves her:) She is a rollie pollie bug, going all over the place. She is starting the beginning phases of crawling and is trying to get up on her knees. She always has smiles and is so happy. She is wearing 12 month clothes and is growing every day. Her hair is getting lighter and she is a beautiful ray of sunshine in our lives. Ellie is a fantastic big sister and helps take good care of her baby sister. We couldn't be happier!
9 more days to go...

Friday, July 30, 2010

Hiking



We have been out hiking a couple times and it's so fun! Ellie has done great:)

Tuesday, May 18, 2010

Sweet Girl






She is growing so fast... she will be 3 months on the 5th. She weighs 13 lbs and is sweet as can be. Grandma asked for some recent pictures so I finally posted some:)

Sunday, May 9, 2010

Mother to Mother

As we celebrate mother's everywhere today, I express my own appreciation for a wonderful mom who taught me so much. I hope I can pass on to my girls the things I learned from her. I will be sure to tell them all about their grandma through their lives and hope that they will take a piece of her with them into motherhood and continue the beautiful legacy of love that only a mother can give. Mother to mother through all the generations, to teach and inspire and help make the world better for what they know to do and be because of a mom to show them.

My great grandma Jane taught her children that "just because we're poor, doesn't mean we have to be dirty." I have heard that my whole life and you know what? I like to take care of my house and always try to show respect for what ever possessions we have by taking care of them. Thanks grandma Jane. My grandma Petie always had candles lit, every night. She said, "every body needs a little romance in their life." She made everything so nice around her, so did my mother. Much of who I am is directly related to who they are. I am so blessed to see these women in action, going about the daily duties of life and how to be a good person.

There are a lot of mothers out there. I have my own mother and a mother-in law, Ellie has a birth mom and me. Khloie has her biological mother and her foster mom. There is Mother Teresa, Eve, the Mother of all living and was before she had any children. There are grand mothers, big sisters who mother their little sisters :) I have even called teachers at school "mom" and many other women who take care of those who need a fill in mom in college, away from family and who need a shoulder to cry on after their mom passes away.

Every woman is a mother, every woman helps others feel God's love, take care of their physical needs, pray for them, teach them. Womanhood, is motherhood. So, today I celebrate mothers. I celebrate all that they do for the world and all that so many women have done for me.

I make a special tribute to my mom. Thanks mom for sleeping on the ground next to me while I enjoyed the couch after surgery when I was 17 and still wanted my mom with me. Thank you for showing me how to make a table pretty and why it's important. Thanks for showing me how to treat others when they come into your home and to make enough food that they know they can eat as much as they want and there will still be plenty. You taught me to be honest without saying anything, but just by me never seeing you do anything dishonest. I know how to work hard and work quick because that's how my mom works. I know to look for details and that cleaning the kitchen includes wiping the counters and sweeping the floor. I like to give everything I make away to people, especially when I think they will like it because you give everything you make away (and I am the happy recipient many times). My mom isn't perfect, but she is the perfect mom for me. I love you mom. I will always be your dolly and your little girl. Happy Mother's Day! Thanks is so inadequate, but it's all to say sometimes when there aren't the words that would capture all that you mean to me, all that you've done and all that you are. So thanks mom, thanks so much...

Wednesday, April 7, 2010

Update



Baby Khloie is growing so much! She is so wonderful... a good, sweet baby girl. Everyone loves to see her and says how beautiful she is. We totally agree:) Her mom is having a rough go of things and we feel more confident every day that Khloie will be with us permanently. We couldn't hope for anything less. Having said that, we of course feel sadness that her mother is making bad choices that are making her life unhappy and unhealthy. Khloie wouldn't do well in that environment ( I won't elaborate here on details, we have a confidentiality clause) but it wouldn't be safe or happy life for her. We love her with all our hearts and would love to be her forever family. Time will have to pass and we will see how things unfold to know for sure what the future holds. As we wait we love her, kiss her, cuddle her and spoil her. She is another ray of sunshine in our lives.

Sunday, March 14, 2010

Baby Khloie

We had a little baby girl placed with us this last Thursday from foster care. She will be with us at least three months... she is beautiful and wonderful! We are so happy that we can provide this service for sweet Khloie. Of course, we fell in love with her the moment we saw her! She is doing really well and blessing our lives already:) Ellorie is doing well too and loves to take care of Khloie. We got her a little baby of her own and all the necessities to care for her. Our friends have been really great and supportive. Although Khloie isn't likely to stay with us forever, they have celebrated our joy in taking a little one in and caring for her as our own. It has meant more to us than we could ever express. She is a true blessing and we will cherish every minute.




Thursday, March 4, 2010

President's Day

Ellie's tribute to George Washington...

I think if he were here now, he'd be honored and impressed. Here's to you George.

Rocking Out with My Bad Self

She has the stance, the vocals, the moves, she's ready for fame and fortune. What parent wouldn't be proud?


Girls just wanna have fun, what can she say!

"I've got moves you've never seen!"

"Thank you, thank you very much..." For my next performance... stay tuned!

Ellorie Turns 4

Ellie had a great birthday. It's the first year she's had a party and she loved it. It was really fun being a parent and throwing a birthday party. She invited 11 friends so we had it at the church building (way too many for our house!). She could have doubled her list if I would have let her. It was hard not to invite everyone. She really wanted to play musical chairs, have a rainbow cake and a pinata. So we did, of course. We also had pizza, played bingo, decorated candy bags and opened gifts. All the pictures are mostly for the grandparents, sorry if everyone else is like "enough with the pictures already!" Ha:)

















We also got her ears pierced. It was pretty traumatic. She said she wanted it done and I told her it would hurt, but nothing could have prepared her for what was to come. She was miserable for 2 hours after, crying so hard. I felt horrible! She said she was glad she did it though and she loves her earrings.


Before she knows what's coming... and then


the set up...
the pain...

the trauma...
It was a 2 hour recovery, then we went to dad's school to meet him for lunch! Grandpa and Grandma Forsgren gave Ellie a McDonalds card and she got her favorite lunch!



She got a plethora of presents and was utterly spoiled. Here she is sporting her new hydration pack from Grandpa and Grandma Arlander. She loves camping and hiking and this will be great for her outdoor adventures!

Thursday, February 18, 2010

My Projects

I have become a big fan of sewing. I love it! I love to create treasures to use in my house, for my daughter and as gifts! I love to make aprons, decorate dish towels, make hair clips and bows, toys, scarves, bags, clothes and I am learning more all the time.

The greatest invention ever... the ruffle/gathering food. It does my ruffling in no time, looks great and is so easy (now that I have figured it out). I don't know how I lived without it! If I was to have a job and didn't have to worry about kids, I would sew and have a little shop of some kind. Until then, I will continue my work here, getting my 10-30 minutes to sew when I can.

Here's some of my work. If you know anyone who wants to order something from me, let me know! I love to sew and will give them a price quote.




Ellie's half apron, by request. She's already starting to tell me what she wants just like Jamie and I do to my mom! She cracks me up:) the ruffle is a nice deep pleat. Looks great, huh!

Monday, February 15, 2010

The Perfect Date

Doug and I had the best date for Valentines! We drove up to Logan and stayed in the Marriott Spring Hills Suite. It is such a great hotel. Doug had flowers delivered to the room before we got there and they are so beautiful! We went to dinner at Le Nonna's which is the best Italian restaurant here in Utah. The chef was born in Tuscany and is amazing! I had crab stuffed ravioli in a cream sauce. Yummy! My friend in Logan, Annette, had Ellie stay there and so everyone was happy. We went to the temple the next morning and ate a great breakfast at the hotel. It was the best date ever! Good job, Doug! He is my forever Valentine. I love you honey.

Wednesday, February 10, 2010

My First Valentine

Valentine's Day is my favorite holiday! When I was single and didn't have a boyfriend or anything, I still loved Valentine's day. It makes me so sad when people are depressed on Valentine's day.When I was a kid my dad always gave us a valentine card stuffed with hershey kisses. I always was so excited to get his card (even in college). Although my mom sometimes did stuff too, it was kind of his holiday. He picked out the card, wrote in it and bought the stuff himself. I think it is safe to say that every other occasion my mom took care of everything. We didn't mind that, and knew dad loved us on our birthdays and Christmas even though he didn't do the shopping or wrapping. But Valentine's Day was different. Daddy took care of every year, without fail. Everyone should have a dad to make them feel loved and special. Thanks dad, for being my valentine all those years and even though I have a husband who has taken on that role very well and takes great care of me, Valentine's Day has the place in my heart like it does because of him. He was my first Valentine. I love you dad! I love you all the way around the world and all the way to heaven and back again...



Sunday, January 10, 2010

The New Year

We had a great vacation in Minnesota visiting both of our families. We always enjoy late nights with the big screen at Jamie and Ryan's and playing Wii at John and Ann's and the games we play with everyone. We received a new game from Ann's family called Split. If you like card games, this is a must have! It is so fun. We taught it to my family and they loved it too. Ellie was a trooper, as always, traveling so far. We drive straight through the night and she hardly slept, but when we got to grandpa and grandma's she was ready for a fun filled day. She really loves her family! We had a wonderful time and we are always sad to leave.

Now we are back in the swing of things, Doug had his first week back at school and starts more classes for his program at Utah State tomorrow. Agh, another crazy semester is about to begin, but next year this time we will be DONE! With EVERYTHING! Yeah! He is such a great man working so hard to get more education and training to provide for us. We never take that for granted.

We are still waiting to hear about adding someone to our family. The girl we talked about last month decided against us. We thought we'd have a foster child by now, but we haven't gotten any calls so we are just waiting on that. No calls from LDS Family Services either. We will let everyone know when we do, until then we just wait.

We are excited for a new year! Everything is pretty much the same in our lives except for our church responsibilities. I now serve with the children as the Primary President and Doug no longer serves as the Young Men's President, but now works in Cub Scouts. Ellie turns 4 March 2nd and that will be fun. We are giving her a birthday party and she is inviting some friends! We are really looking forward to summer and all the fun that comes with it!

Happy New Year Everyone!